WHO MOVED THE SUN? This book contains a lot of personal memories of what it's like to be a twin, for that is what a Twinless Twin is left with in the end. It is hopeful that it will help other twins with their secret anguish and feelings of loneliness, and to cope with the unique and unbreakable bond that's deeper and different than any other kind of relationship, because twins are connected forever. It can also help the parents, spouses, loved ones and friends of twins understand the mystery of the special bond twins live with their entire lives.
Always My Twin , for young children who have experienced the death of their twin sibling, is a book for any child whose twin died before birth, after birth or as a young child. The story is based on the author's own experience of losing a newborn twin daughter in 2002. The book tells the story through the eyes of a young girl whose twin sister dies shortly after their births. She begins her story with sharing the womb with her twin, the joy of her family anticipating the arrival of twins, the family's pain of losing one of their precious babies, and her own expressions of grief for her twin's death. The surviving twin also shares with the audience the precious ways in which she and her family remember her twin throughout the year. Included are interactive pages for the reader to respond to with pictures, identifying feelings and providing family information.
Heartache, healing and hope are evident through the author's words and the illustrator's artwork in telling the story of loss and love. Whether twins were identical or fraternal, separated by death at birth or years later, Always My Twin will find a special place in the hearts of surviving twin children and their families. A list of support resources for families who have experienced the death of a baby (including the death of a twin or higher multiple) is available in the back of the book.
On the morning of February 6, 1991, Dennis Apple discovered the lifeless body of his son on their family room couch. Eighteen-year-old Denny had died without warning from what was later explained as complications due to Mono. Sixteen years later, Dennis still struggles with living in a world without his son.Life After the Death of My Son shares a glimpse of the unspeakable pain, helplessness, frustration, and eventual healing that Dennis and his wife, Buelah, have experienced since losing their son. Using excerpts from his journal—which he began the day after Denny died—Dennis explores the dark, lonely road of grieving for a child. He discloses his anger and disappointment with God; discusses his frustrations with friends and family; and shares how he's dealt with the grief attacks, which continue to sneak up and surprise him. His painful, yet promising story offers comfort and connection to those walking similar paths. With understanding and compassion, Dennis offers grieving parents insight from 10 lessons he's learned—and continues to learn. His gentle words and honest understanding will guide those with grieving hearts on their difficult journey; giving them hope; helping them to discover ways in which God is able to continue the life of the child they loved.
Only someone who has experienced the tragic loss of a child can understand the depth of this loss. Christine Howser lost both of her twin boys, Steven and Timothy, shortly after birth. Ms. Howser has captured the essence of this loss and detailed her story here. It is greatly comforting to know thathealing is possible!
I highly recommend this book to anyone who has experienced a tragic loss or to anyone who has a friend who has lost a child. Ms. Howser is an inspiration and I commend her for sharing her story with the world.
One in eight people is a wombtwin survivor, i.e. they lost a co-twin before birth. Here is an extraordinary collection of personal stories, written by wombtwin survivors themselves in their own words and gathered together by Althea Hayton. Each story focuses on a different aspect of the loss of a twin before birth, including signs of a lost twin; how it feels to be a wombtwin survivor and the long struggle to find some kind of therapy to help on the healing journey.
Writing the story of this silent, secret loss from long ago can be painful, but the pain can be healed. Reading theis, wombtwin survivors may recognise elements of their own story and realise the extraordinary truth behind the strange and irrational feelings they have experienced all their lives. Those who are unable to understand how anyone can be so deeply affected by the loss of a twin before birth may learn through these stories how it feels to be a wombtwin survivor.
Twins hold fascination for people. We are intrigued by their closeness. But what happens when twins are separated, especially by death? Twin mortality is high, but it is not uncommon for a lone twin's loss at any age to go unmarked. They need extra help and support to take them through the loss of their "other half". The loss of a twin can be devastating to the survivor.
Working as an attachment therapist, Joan Woodward uses John Bowlby's theories as her conceptual base. She suggests that the highly significant attachment that twin frequently make with each other may begin for twins before birth. She takes the reader through their closeness and on to the experience of death and bereavement. The book includes parental attitudes to the surviving twin, the surviving twin's guilt, the ability to cope and the effect of loss in childhood and adulthood. Of particular interest, perhaps, are those who lost their twin at birth. Throughout, the book is illustrated by words of surviving twins: affecting accounts of bereavement.
This is an important and rare book for many professionals -counsellors, psychotherapists, social workers, psychologists and teachers -who come into contact with bereaved twins and yet have little understanding of the dynamics of twinship and twin loss. Written in jargon-free language, it is also for the twins themselves, their families, parents and friends.
This book gives lone twins the chance for the first time. to have their voices heard, and professionals the opportunity to develop more effective ways of supporting them.
Joan Woodward, herself a lone twin, is a psychotherapist based in Birmingham, England. She is a founder of the Lone Twin Network, an organisation that enables lone twins to contact each other and share their experiences.
Many people feel alone in their grief, as infertility and baby loss is often kept hidden from friends and family. Feelings of distress and inadequacy are common as are feelings of not wanting to face the world at a time of immense pain. When it is made public the full extent of the loss is not generally acknowledged
This ignorance through lack of understanding can be hurtful, as can the unsolicited advice that often comes thick and fast. Baby Gone has been created to give solace. Many readers will be able to relate to the stories in the book. It will help them to feel less alone and to see that their grief is valid and the whole range of other emotions that they experience are normal.
Baby Gone is compiled by Jenny Douché. In September 2010 Jenny put a call for stories out to the New Zealand public. Over 100 stories were received and 45 were chosen for the book.
Revolutionary in its simplicity and accessible to all, Stop Thinking and Start Living offers profound short term, common sense methods that allow you to let go of negativity and tap into your natural state of well being.
In this indispensable handbook, Richard Carlson demonstrates how we can change everything in our lives earn more money, meet new friends, get a new job yet still feel dissatisfied. Happiness, he says, is not ′out there′ but within, a state of mind that is independent of circumstance: ′ If you begin to see that your thoughts are not the real thing : they′re just thoughts and as thoughts they can′t hurt you your entire life will begin to change today.′
Carlson′s step by step guide explains:
How your thoughts determine how you feel Why thinking about problems only makes them worse
That thoughts come and go you are free to choose at any moment which you hold on to and which thoughts you let go of
Straightforward methods for conquering depression
How to dismiss negative thoughts and discover inner contentment
How to overcome lifelong pessimism and start really living
When Saul Diskin's twin brother, Marty, announced that he had leukemia, the crisis drew the two together. Saul chronicles the heartfelt struggles that he and his brother shared as Marty fought the disease. Growing up in New York, the siblings separated after high school, each struggling to establish his personal identity. They both got married and had families--in different parts of the country. But once the leukemia was diagnosed, the two brothers found a special strength between them. Because he was genetically identical to Marty, Saul was able to help his brother by donating bone marrow. Eventually, however, the brothers came to their own separate terms with the inevitability of death. This book is primarily concerned with the effect of illness and death on the unique relationship between twins, but in more general and overarching terms, it chronicles the effect of terminal illness on any close relationship.
The Diary is an inspirational story as shown through the eyes of a grieving mother. Whilst confronting issues that make most people feel uncomfortable, it attempts to shatter the walls of fear and ignorance surrounding death in general.
This is a book that offers hope to those seeking it, and insight for those who wish to understand. A very personal and tragic journey, The Diary holds something for everybody.
Lynne Schulz is co-ordinator of the Murraylands Lutheran Stillborn Infant Support Service in South Australia, and has written a number of devotions, articles and a conference paper. The Diary is her first book. Lynne lives in Murray Bridge, South Australia with her husband and three sons, where she runs a small business, and spends her spare time gardening, singing with a small church band, and training in martial arts.
Megan Louise Schulz was Lynne's stillborn twin daughter, and the inspiration for this book.
"In her second book on twin loss, Lynne Schulz skillfully weaves together poignant anecdotes and professional advice to guide parents in raising surviving multiples. Schulz fills a critical unmet need as no existing books address in detail the challenge of nurturing survivors' emotional health while keeping the memories of equally desired siblings alive. she includes comments from bereaved parents and adult surviving multiples throughout the book. After reviewing parental grief, the author presents a thought provoking survey of behaviours observed in young survivors.
Strengths of this volume include creative advice for remembering the enduring relationship with deceased co-multiples, advocacy for survivors' special needs, and the oft-overlooked surviving triplets and higher order multiples.
Recurring moments of sadness, inevitable when survivors reach milestones, are viewed from the positive perspective of celebrating the survivor while understandably remembering those who are missing. A discussion of non-Western ideas of twinship illustrates the universal recognition of the uniqueness of multiples and the special attention sometimes paid to their death. resources and recommendations for parents of surviving multiples and professionals round out a well-researched book that is essential reading for parents of surviving multiples and professionals or educators who work with them." Beth Pector.
Lynne Schulz is founder/co-ordinator of Murraylands Twin Loss, based in Murray Bridge, South Australia. Lynne is a volunteer bereavement counselor and educator, a karate instructor, as well as the author of the book, The Diary. You can visit Lynne's website at www.murraylandstwinloss.org.au The survivor continues the story of twin loss and higher order multiple loss issues, examining in detail the effects upon both survivors and their families as the survivors progress through childhood and adolescence.
An essential addition to The Diary and a 'must have' for anyone even slightly curious about the behavioural patterns of these unique and very special people!
Got a stress case in your life? Of course you do: "Without question, many of us have mastered the neurotic art of spending much of our lives worrying about a variety of things all at once." Carlson's cheerful book aims to make us stop and smell--if not roses--whatever is sitting in front of our noses. Don't Sweat the Small Stuff... offers 100 meditations designed to make you appreciate being alive, keep your emotions (especially anger and dissatisfaction) in proper perspective, and cherish other people as the unique miracles they are. It's an owner's manual of the heart, and if you follow the directions, you will be a happier, more harmonious person. Like Stairmasters, oat bran, and other things that are good for you, the meditations take discipline. Even so, some of the strategies are kind of fun: "Imagine the people in your life as tiny infants and as 100-year-old adults." The trouble is, once you start, it's hard to stop.
In Carlson's bestselling Don't Sweat books, he declares that the right perspective can help everyday troubles seem less worrisome. Here he attempts to answer a question he received from thousands of readers. Tackling the "big stuff"-e.g., death, divorce, illness, September 11-Carlson offers a kind of advanced-level self-help book that's as heartfelt and useful as his "small stuff" guides. "Fortunately, a vast majority... is small stuff.... However, there's no denying that `big stuff' exists," he admits. The key to handling it, he says, is to prepare by learning how to practice inner peace. If one is ready, according to Carlson, one can better handle pain. Drawing on Eastern and Western religions, he advises readers on mourning a loved one's death ("Healing from a loss is a natural process of life-just as healing from a broken bone is") and coping with why that person had to die so soon ("The first step toward inner peace... is admitting the fact that we simply don't know certain answers"). He also shares Mother Teresa's thoughts on doing "small things with great love"-since cultivating compassion can help one prepare for big stuff-as well as Buddhist philosophies on the power of forgiveness. Many of the messages readers have heard repeatedly in churches, synagogues, memorial services and even on Oprah. But dealing with the repercussions of September 11 and massive job layoffs, people want and need to hear them again.
When Richard Carlson wrote Don't Sweat the Small Stuff in January 1997, he had no way of knowing it would be the beginning of an unrivaled publishing success story. The book was the #1 New York Times bestseller for two full years, an unprecedented feat, and to date has more than nine million copies in print. A series of Don't Sweat books followed, each garnering impressive sales in their own right. Now, in time for the tenth anniversary of that first publication, Carlson has created The Big Book of Small Stuff, a best-of collection drawn from the series.
It features pieces beloved by Calrson and his millions of fans, classic tales of inspiration and success like: Make Peace with Imperfection, Allow Yourself to Be Bored, Praise and Blame Are All the Same, See the Innocence, and more.
Carlson and Shield began their collaboration with For the Love of God (1990). Here they've joined forces and invited a number of spiritually inclined (and quite a few best-selling) authors to contribute essays about the nourishment of the soul. In their introduction, Carlson and Shield discuss the fact that everyone craves spiritual sustenance no matter what their religious orientation may be. Indeed, the very concept of soul means different things to different people, and this diversity is reflected in the volume's assortment of viewpoints and experiences. Authors such as Lynn Andrews, Wayne Dyer, Robert Fulghum, Bernie Siegel, Marianne Williamson, and Ram Dass offer suggestions and observations about nourishing the soul through meditation, prayer, and the contemplation of nature. Many writers offer glimpses into their own daily routines and explain, briefly, how they manage to maintain an enthusiasm for life and a vital sense of that mysterious, timeless part of ourselves that we call the soul.
"An Hour to Live, an Hour to Love is a genuine love story and a moving reminder that in the midst of our busyness, our lives revolve around a few irreplaceable human beings. Reading these poignant pages made me stop in my tracks, hug my husband, call my daughter, and pet my cat." -- Victoria Moran, author of Creating a Charmed Life
"Richard and Kristine Carlson write with such vulnerability, clarity, compassion, and depth that it touched every fiber of our hearts. This awesome book will ignite the spiritual core in all that are fortunate enough to choose to read and bathe in it." -- Gerald G. Jampolsky, M.D., and Diane V. Cirincione, Ph.D., authors of Finding Our Way Home
"When our true love departs, there is an absence left in their wake not unlike the circles expanding from a mountain pulled from the sea. But love never dies, and can even grow on either side of the river." -- Stephen Levine, author of A Year to Live
"Richard Carlson, so beloved to many of us, writes to his own true love from a place somewhere between life and death. The love with which he writes to her, and the love with which she answers, provide a teaching for all of us: on life, on death, and on the existence of a spirit that transcends them both."
Don't Get Scrooged is a jewel of a handbook on how to avoid, appease, and even win over the Scrooges who haunt your holidays. Whether it's the salesclerk who ignores you in favor of her cell phone, the customer who knowingly jumps ahead of you in line at Starbucks, the unnaturally irritable boss down the hall, or the in-laws who invite themselves (every year) for a two-week stay at your house, you will always need to deal with Scrooges, grumps, uninvited guests, sticks-in-the-mud, and supreme party poopers. Learning to handle them whenever and wherever they appear is not just optional—it's essential.